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The profile they have written about themselves is lively, interesting and engaging and you are also well matched on your Affinity test.
You start to feel those familiar stirrings of interest, all is not lost in your dating quest, things really feel like they are looking up.
How can you let them know you are interested without coming on too strong or leaving yourself open to a rejection that could knock your confidence?
This early negotiation is a delicate balance of introducing yourself without giving too much away.
If we give too much of ourselves away at the outset, we run the risk of having nothing much left over for them to find out if we do meet up later and if we are rejected we will feel exposed and vulnerable, which might put us off trying again with someone else.
It's helpful to strike a healthy balance in these early negotiations.
On the one hand we want them to know we are interested, creating the possibility of taking things further, whilst at the same time ensuring that we protect our own natural vulnerability so that if it doesn't work out, we can walk away feeling good about ourselves.
The Halo Effect The advantage of being the one who makes first contact is that we are then imbued with a halo effect.
This gentle introduction will always be welcome because you are showing them that you like what you see, whilst having no expectations.
After all, you are simply working off your instinctive reaction to their profile, but that is not the same as knowing them and at this stage you really don't.
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